Without consciously realizing the attendant whys and frayed why knots of social discourse, as personal intent concerns intimate relationship, and the economic results that keep us safe, secure, and hopefully prosperous, arguments and decisions about our necessities of life will continue to undermine, instead of respond to, our needs and desires for improved public and private welfare. God’s will, His created expectation for everyone, is for each person to honor Him, others, and their self by being responsible in refraining from falsehearted selfish intimacy. This includes homosexual’s discrimination against a man’s natural rights to be married to a woman and a woman’s natural rights to be married to a man.

Luke 9:23-27 And He was saying unto all, ‘If any one intendeth after Me to come, Let him deny himself and take up his cross daily, and be following me. For whosoever intendeth his life to save, shall lose it; but, whosoever shall lose his life for my sake, the same shall save it. For what doth a man profit, who hath gained the whole world, but hath lost, or been made to forfeit, himself? For, whosoever shall be ashamed of Me and of My words, of him the Son of Man will be ashamed, whensoever He shall come in His glory, and that of the Father and of the holy messengers.'

   Infidelity is not in experiencing physical intimacy and personal shared moments of pleasure with one not our spouse, though involvement in those activities can cause far reaching conflicts, private and publicly scattered confusion, and intense rivalry. Infidelity, rather, is hidden dishonesty – a secret manipulative agenda of intrigue to deceive us into believing securities and trust are being honored. Outward displays of spite, taunting, mockery, and maligning other’s character are an attempt to shield and cover secret emotional confusion about priorities in misalignment with desires.

   Infidelity springs from wishes to realize, through service from others, imaginary requirements to support and verify our personal comforts and securities. Each act of self-serving indiscretion and hidden indecency is not an extension of a previous act of sinfulness. Emotional impulses to cover one’s sin use an analyzing reason-able logic to integrate an additional act of defiance, to please one’s self, into the memories associated with the previous act. Repetition causes the presumption that one sin strung to another is a continuation of a way of being where a person is being deceived by believing what they have done is who they are.

   But, each moment’s act of infidelity is a separate and distinct act of infidelity and cannot be considered as part of an overall single sin of infidelity. To overrun one’s conviction of heart for having betrayed sensibilities and responsibilities requires finding false validation for circumstances that may have led to falling to alternative attentions from a person’s rightful way. Product advertisements use the allure of the female (and also male) form to incite and interlace erotic/emotional incentives to obtain material possessions and services. So, men and women search for erotic engagement(s) to fulfill their psychologically trained audio/visual desires.

   The polarization of thought, emotions, and the subsequent outcome of activity has, in part, a subversive affect and effect drawn from the habits obtained through electric appliances and machines. Technological devices have an “on and off” response to our expectations that emotionally manifest our decisions to consume and discard as we imagine our wishes to be. When the concepts of ‘have or have not’ are steeped into the desires of security and well being, the concepts inadvertently and disrespectfully are applied to people who may or may not provide an answer to a chosen direction.

   Since objects are not people, the use or disuse of the objects is more manageable than the use or disuse of people. So, it is easier to identify with the control over objects than it is with the whims and varying will of people. One may turn a light switch on or off at will. Trust in the use of devices is more easily accepted than the use of people because people are not devices. Rather, people are intended to be trusted according to their familial position of bond. The confusion rests in the disassociated understanding of the meaning of love. We say we ‘love’ anything that does for us what we think of as beneficial.

   The work of our hands includes the extended work of our hands that appliances (machines) do. For example, we can build an automobile, put fuel into the tank, turn the key and it ‘comes alive and breathes’ to produce the work we wish it to produce. Our physical bodies are viewed from materialistic perspective as similar to machines where we can alter and use the flesh ‘house’ we live in to our choosing. But, there is all the difference between a soulless machine and a soul inhabited human body. A person has the innate ability to respond to his or her creator directly and through interaction with others. A device, appliance, or machine has no such properties of will to choose.

   Accepting the reality of intelligent reasoning brings us to accept that God also exists outside religious observances since existence itself, the physical plant and animal world as we know it, has an instinctual awareness of its own existence. The Rule of Required Existence states: “There is a hierarchy of authority delegated to mutual benefit within respect to the positions of authority.” God can exist without people while people cannot exist without God - given the understanding that the ongoing expression of life through people would cease if the source of the reasons of existence ceased. People can exist without marriage while marriage cannot exist without people – given the understanding that the ongoing expression of social agreement would cease if the source of the reasons for marriage ceased.

   In the case of a monarchy, where a kingship rules society, there is a dual position the king ideally holds. The positions are diametrically opposed in that the king’s authority over the people unto God as a dispensary of leadership requires his acceptance of the people’s authority over his position of governance for protection and social order. This is where the duality of church and state works cohesively in the balance of mutual trust. This is where the bond of Holy Matrimony is the foundation of private, as well as public, stability. Religious observance is directly correlated, by decree, with commerce and safety because each marriage bond of a man and woman must accept the will of creative nature of propagation while realizing mortal dangers to family structure.

   Marriage, the foundation of any society (though there are distorted variations of exception) has sanction by the supernatural because of the propagation of life – the unknown extent of will beyond mortal understanding – and validation by government in protective agreement to respectfully honor the awareness of life as protections are approved or disallowed. In this, the traditional family (man married to woman and the children of the union – combined with the extended collective of like associations) is the actual church in its living expression and is the actual government in its living expression – the inseparable compliment of church and state.

   As individual and collective religious observance becomes more varied, and/or neglected entirely, a quandary develops concerning the establishment of religion by state definition, simply because a core aspect of religious faith is based in definitions.  Chaos gradually replaces order where the rule of law must legislate peacekeeping measures to offset the lack of agreement about matters of sensible living. In this, because it has no reasoned conscience in answering the questions of living, money takes the place of personal authority, shared by a man and woman in marriage, in determining the values of social order, and becomes an attempt at a means to make accepted order of chaos.

   However, Jesus Christ of His own desire of will, applies to us all complete redemption from evil influences as we trust Him in faithfulness during the pitfalls of life – we meanwhile, in our self-righteous indignant pride of acquired holiness unto God through Christ, stand in fierce opposition to anyone who does not suit our way – as if our choice of exclusive right-of-way is God’s way. The separation of church and state, necessarily combined in the hearts and minds of the people, takes on a disoriented lifting up of government as a replacement for the church through the rule of law as a standard to offset the variances of thought and religious observance.

   Society, then, becomes the determiner of the values of marriage instead of marriage setting the standards for society. This role playing of government to establish a chaotic order of disorder through declaring church influence non-governmental creates an increasingly confused disruption of stability and peace throughout society. The rule of law, without respect to faith in the will of God, has a pragmatic will of order outside constructive unity. Without the guidance that faithfully trusting God through our spouse brings, there is a logical step from; "If it's not against the law, it is permissible" to "...as long as we don't get caught."

   Militaristic control of the population becomes necessarily more involved when church influence has lost its guiding acceptance. Government of state as the compliment of church, of, for, and by the people, increasingly becomes more corrupt as government competes with the attentions of people for the authority of order amidst a society in turmoil. Thus, the acceptance of the place of government for the people, as a support for the people’s acceptance of their place in the church unto God, loses its legitimate respect for the authority of a sound marriage.

   Since the term ‘church’ has two generally accepted meanings (one; any system of belief is religious observance, whether individual or collective, and two; a governmentally recognized organization designed to compensate for fears of the unknown, most often through charitable works), the true meaning of ‘church’ has been extracted from functional use within family living where ‘church’ most finds its function to guide the government’s role to protect private institutions.

   Foreign military engagement is not to retaliate or punish. It is to halt aggression and oppression against our people as well as the people of our enemy. Rejoicing in victory never gloats over an enemy’s defeat. Our struggles, in all instances, are based in handling well or not handling well the immediacy of sensation. By ‘immediacy of sensation’ it is meant: The replacement of natural observances and fulfilled needs with alternative gratifying experiences. In short, it means doing what we do for the wrong reasons without an established authority of commitment in priority everyone agrees to follow.

   This leads to increasing frequency of obsessive addictions as if they are inalienable rights. A key ingredient of distorted perceptions brought about by inappropriate reactions to alternative stimuli is forgetfulness. When a person is gratified by an experience that replaces a need for proper and responsible fulfillment, the person forgets the reason for the proper fulfillment through the free associative use of the alternatives. This ‘forgetfulness’ of sensibility, the compartmentalizing of divided roles of attention, looks to cause angry opposition in each category against the other to drive further compulsions to hide guilt and shame in mock remorse.

   Diversions and covering for having left sensible responsibility brings attempts to justify, and therefore continue to justify, a wrong as if it is right. Inordinate associations in one area of misunderstanding create an attitude of evaluating experiences through distorted expectations. To alleviate the tensions of losing an integrated sense of depth and balance, separate approaches to varying circumstances and situations causes a dissociative compartmentalizing where motivations depend on momentary ethics. This presumes and assumes the right necessarily becomes wrong by the awkward establishment of a wrong as right via the appeal of variety.

   Eventually there comes an acceptance of the wrong as opposed to the right through persistence of habit, but the persistence of habit spirals into the load of shifting personal responsibilities onto others. While everyone is responsible for everyone else in some way or another, the perceived load of responsibility of projected blame or lack of effort is decidedly different from a natural shared endeavor. The individual affects the populace and the populace affects the individual. The institution of marriage loses its service to the people and becomes a cast aside mockery.

   The will of freedom to do as one improperly wishes in a community, eventually creates a "heart surfing" society that requires socialistic controls when God is deemed opposed, instead of complimentary, to living. When God does not have an accepted place of influence through the people over marriage and the family, corruption of financial responsibility automatically becomes the driving force that turns the integrity of capitalism’s function into subversive corruption. Anticipation to realize imaginative fantasy engages the vague mystique of ”perhaps“ and masquerades its active focus as the expectancy of hopeful faith in our expressed promises of the Word.